And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.(Genesis 2:23-25)
There is a wedding at very near the beginning of the Bible, and a wedding at the end of it.The union of man and wife is the fundamental human relationship. Before any other relationship, father/son, Brother/brother, or brother/sister, friend/friend, employer/employee, the fundamental and primal relationship is husband wife.
This first wedding is of prophetic significance, because the original groom, who had a scar in his side,from which his wife was taken out of, foreshadows the ultimate bridegroom, Jesus, out of whose side blood and water poured forth when they pierced him, whilst he was paying the price for his bridal church, (which he purchased from sin with his own blood).
Adam’s spiritual eyes, at this point undimmed by sin, could dimly see that final wedding, that every marriage between man and woman points to in some fashion. He prophesied on that first wedding day, of fathers and mothers,(something he had not yet had any experience of), and of the Divinely wrought unity of marriage, that God makes a new person of the two persons, truly “bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh”.
Centuries later the apostle Paul would reveal to us by Divine revelation, something of what Adam had been given a glimpse of on that hopeful day,
For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.(Ephesians 5:31-32)
The mystery of marriage is that it is in itself a sign that points to a greater reality, the love of the Messiah for his church. The Word that God used when he says that he formed the woman out of Adam’s side, is the same word tat is used to describe Cain building a city. We will see in chapter 4 hat in rebellion against God, Cain built a city of rebellion, Enoch, (means “Inauguration”), a “New Start” without God, for all of those who wish to leave the presence of the Lord and to make their own life on their own terms.
But God has built a bride for Adam, and he has been building a bridal city for the Messiah, the Bride, the Lamb’s wife, which is a ‘bridal city’ of God,
And there came unto me one of the seven angels which had the seven vials full of the seven last plagues, and talked with me, saying, Come hither, I will shew thee the bride, the Lamb’s wife. And he carried me away in the spirit to a great and high mountain, and shewed me that great city, the holy Jerusalem, descending out of heaven from God, Having the glory of God: and her light was like unto a stone most precious, even like a jasper stone, clear as crystal;(Revelation 21:9-11)
“Upon this rock I will build my church and the gates of hell will not prevail against it…” Matthew 16
Marriage is ordained by God himself, it is not man’s invention. Those who sin against marriage, will give full account to God. To destroy a marriage is a deep, grievous sin, which God will require of all involved, for as the apostle who wrote Hebrews reveals,
“Marriage is to be honored by all and whoremongers and adulterers, God will judge.” (Hebrews 13)
The author of marriage is the unseen witness at every wedding, taking special note of the vows spoken in his presence. He is ever willing to give any couple the power to keep those vows, yet he will judge us on the basis of those vows.
What is marriage? The real bridegroom defined it for us , when the Pharisees, who held a low view of marriage questioned him about the permissibility of divorce “for any reason”. They cited a liberal interpretation of Moses’ law of divorce, but Jesus would have none of that, instead taking them back “to the beginning”,
The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause? And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.(Matthew 19:3-6)
Marriage is God taking two people and making of them “one flesh” one new person, with each retaining their individuality. Divorce is “putting them asunder”, tearing them apart, which involves more than the tearing up of a piece of paper. It is literally the ripping apart of two joined together. This is why those who destroy marriage will answer to God in judgment.
“Leave your father and mother”, in other words all other relationships pale in comparison, even the closest ones(Father and Mother). Spiritually one must ‘leave their parents’ in order to be able to truly cleave to( cling, chase, adapt, adhere to) one’s spouse.
The current assault on marriage, is nothing less than Satanic. It is because marriage is one of those Divine institutions that is above all of us, ie it is sacred, that the Sodomites are compelled to seek to pull it down and profane it(“Gay marriage”), wiping their feet on it, to assure that there is nothing above them. But the God of marriage is taking names and making notes of the sacrilege.